Are You Ready for Relationships In Recovery? 

This is a space for women on a healing journey who want to succeed at sex, love and dating without Tequila, Ben & Jerry’s or *67.

We offer Memberships, Online Courses and Private Coaching.

Book a FREE Discovery Call and we’ll create a personalized strategy for you today!


Finally feel secure without years of therapy or even one more heartbreak

The worst thing is feeling like a teenager when it comes to love (that was hard enough the first time, am I right?).

How do you date sober? What do you do when your man is hurtful or dismissive? How do you even have sex without substances? How do you change who you’re attracted to? How do you decide if the relationship you’re in is the right one for you?

We will demystify dating and relationships and help you navigate this wild wild country and you’ll never worry whether this will work for a woman in recovery like you–because this is made especially for you!


What to expect...

Begin to tell a new story, one where you are the lead character 


Relax & Let Go

I know the deal about both addiction and relationships so you can count on me to give you the straight dirt with solid accountability while you let go of anxiety and go with the flow


No More Negative Nelly

Our solutions will help you drop the resentments, trust yourself to take care of yourself, and walk away from toxic people which means-- Hope. Is. Back. 


Shift Your Thinking

I use a coaching method that works from the “outside in” and the “inside out”  to generate an internal shift that will change the way you feel about yourself, the world, and others 

You'll look back on this and laugh


I was single the first 12 years of my recovery. Geez that sucked. But I finally got tired of my own B.S. and I got the got the help I needed. It's easy to look back now and laugh about my foibles because I'm no longer struggling. 

Now, I pass on the wisdom I gained through personal experience as well as my training in Attachment Repair, Tantra, Coaching and Intervention.

I've helped hundreds of women get over past relationships, learn a new way to do relationships in recovery, and finally have the love they want!  


Going Through a Breakup? 

 Should You Stay or Go? 

Doing Love Sober? 

Done Being Single?

We work from the outside in and the inside out to help you discover who you are, what you want, what's standing in your way and how to overcome those obstacles so that you are forever changed in the process. 


Private Coaching

As a Relationship & Recovery Coach I provide a container where you can become secure on your healing journey and thrive in  relationships.

I teach you the skills you need to get the love you want, and improve the love you have. 

Along the way I’m your accountability buddy, cheerleader, “big sister,” and loving mirror. 

Together we build a bridge to help you get from where you are now to where you want to be.



We offer a variety of courses you can purchase a la carte which address specific issues and can be accessed directly from this site in a self-paced version. From BOUNDARIES ARE THE NEW BLACK which will teach you a 3 Step Process for Creating Boundaries, to LOVE HIM... OR LEAVE HIM? which gives you the clarity, confidence and courage to make a decision you won't regret, to our signature group coaching program HEARTBREAK to HEALED with the exclusive Love Map. 


Membership Options

Two different monthly membership options are available, depending on where you're at.

Smart Love Society is for those who are bit further along on their journey and or One in a Million membership is a great place to start. 

Both memberships offer solutions for women who are struggling in relationships with monthly Q&A and/or coaching and an online community for added support so that you can ditch the douchebags and start dating your dream guy. 


You're 3 steps away from transforming your love life

Schedule A Discovery Call

During this Free 30 minute conversation I will invite you to share a bit of your story and what you’re currently struggling with. We'll identify what breakthroughs you are hoping to make in your life. I’ll explain more about coaching and what it can do for you personally and you can ask any questions you have. We will come up with a game plan of where to go next so that you don’t have to spend even one more day spinning your wheels. 

Get Into the Solution

Whether you decide to join a Membership, do Private Coaching or IPF, take a course, or some combination of the three, the point is that we have solutions for you and when you step into them you are taking a stand for your heart, you are finally breaking free from the past, and you are already building confidence in your ability to take care of yourself. 

Watch the dial move on your results


For some women it's about creating more boundaries in the relationship they're in, for others it's making a choice about that relationship, or letting go of an ex, and still others are single and ready to try dating in a new way. Step by step we see old habits fall away and we make new, healthy, empowered choices. 

What is IPF? 

Ideal Parent Figure Protocol is a Meditation Intervention for Attachment Repair


So, good news, insecure internal maps of attachment and insecure patterns of behavior can be modified and changed for the better.

Memory is limited to our actual experience with the caregivers we grew up with, but imagination creates new possibilities.

With IPF we do a meditation where you’ll begin to imagine an ideal parent figure for yourself. This exploration is about your ideal parent, someone perfectly suited to your nature in every way.

We are not attempting to repair or replace the actual parenting experiences that you had. We’re trying to make these “completely pristine independent entries into the perceptual database,” as one of my mentors George Haas says.

What happens as you do this work is that after a while you’ll begin to respond differently to the world. You’ll begin to make new choices based on the new “love map” or Internal Working Model.

And this, dear ones, is when we do a little happy dance (and we don’t care who sees us!)


A few words from clients who have gone before you... 



When I first came to Dufflyn, I was dealing with many personal challenges such as a breakup, war trauma, moving to a new country, low self-esteem, anger, and anxiety.  Through our work together I gained insight, established healthier relationships, got  clarity on my goals, and acquired the capability to recognize signs of depression and proactively deal with it. This has made a significant difference in my life. Thank you Dufflyn! 


Having come out of a divorce and an intense rebound relationship, I needed some guidance! I didn’t know what I wanted and I was addicted to dating apps. Finding balance was tough and I was riddled with self doubt. Dufflyn gave me strategies that really helped me evaluate the guys I was dating and gave me vocabulary to name what I was feeling. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months. I wouldn’t have found myself (and also him!) without Dufflyn’s help.


Dufflyn helped me make realizations about my relationship and behaviors in order to figure out if I want to either improve the relationship or end it. She guided me to make the right, self-respecting choices for me. I find her direct, focused approach useful and efficient. There is now more awareness of our needs, honesty and respect for each other.We had a good result and the relationship has improved.

JENNY, Calgary AB

After I hit one year in Recovery, I felt my 11 year marriage was missing a spark. Dufflyn gave me the ease and confidence that I needed – for my relationship and my recovery.  I have re-connected with my husband through the changes within myself and tools that I learned from Dufflyn. 

MAGGIE, California USA

It may sound drastic to say something like Dufflyn Lammers gave me my husband,” but there is truth to that statement. I really had some problems with dependency, codependency and addictive behaviors and she helped me see what my needs were with clarity and particularly just letting me see who my best self is. 

FRAN, Florida USA

I felt safe from the beginning. Dufflyn was very easy to talk to, she listened, and she asked hard questions that made me think. She reframed what I said so that I really heard what I was really saying. She remembered everyone's name, she was prepared and had a goal for each meeting. She was great.

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 So that you can have healthy empowering relationships that last